Saturday, March 17, 2012

PASSING NOTES, vol. 1 "Why'd You Ask Her Out?"

Welcome to a brand new series that I'm super excited about. Last week, I was working from Starbucks and a cute stranger passed me a note, middle school style. It had check boxes and everything. I thought it was pretty precious. Anyway, the "Passing Notes" series has been created to ask the questions that you want answers to, but don't want to ask in front of the whole class. Here's the first one. I surveyed a bunch of awesome dudes, and here's what they said:

What was it that made you ask out the last girl you asked out?

ANONYMOUS GUY:  "We'd been friends for a bit, but I hadn't seen her for a while and when I came back in town we got lunch and I was like, "You know what?  I like her." It was just great talking to her.  And she doesn't usually get all made up, and she was and I could tell she was making a special effort for me."

Photo Credit: Burt Green

KYLE: "That's a tough question ... well, it got to a point where it needed to be addressed.  I felt something for a while and was like, "This is weird, this feeling didn't used to be there ... and I can't ignore it anymore - it needs to be addressed." She was gorgeous, and I was good friends with her so I already knew there was a good foundation there - and we had a lot in common so I could see potential for us."

ANOTHER ANONYMOUS GUY:  "Now it's weird because more stuff than necessary happens on social media like Twitter and Facebook and you kinda feel like you know someone a lot more than you actually do.  You used to have to use pick up lines or find a creative way to get their attention in person.  Now you can pick your battles, if you're talking to someone online for a bit before you ask her out, it's easy to get a feel for whether they're interested in you before you ask.  People have a lot more confidence online than they do at a party.  People don't even talk on the phone unless you've been with the person for a long time.  If you're texting a lot with someone, you can put feelers out  and soften something with an "lol" and act like you were joking if they're not into you. *laughs*"

HERVE:  "I wanted to know more about her. The more I found out, the more I wanted to find out, until eventually I wanted to be the only one she spent that kind of time with. Not that I wanted to be selfish, but if she made that decision then it would mean she felt the same way about me as I did about her. There are characteristics about her that are in other girls, but somehow with her it's just different. The best way to describe this is "divine." I know that word is hard to explain, but that's the only word I have for it."

ZACH: "I had a great connection with the last girl I asked out. She was super caring and understanding and earned my respect very quickly. She wasn't afraid to be vulnerable and confident. And we felt like we were on the same wavelength. Plus, she really had all these great comments on my music :) ... and was very pretty. Yep that's it."

Got a question for the next installment of "Passing Notes"?  

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